Love or betrayal: when the colors get tangled! From love to hate, there would be only one step, according to the proverb! How can we think that at the center of the relationships that we have every day, thunderous chords sometimes play out that come to break the balance and harmony at the heart of our lives?
When we consider the story of a life by taking a step back, we realize that we have crossed paths with beings to whom we have been linked by bonds either of love or friendship. And yet never we could have imagined that we would end up drifting so far from each other until we even forget the sacred moment of the meeting that gave birth to this relationship which then went out like a fire that we would have forgotten to revive!
What makes us go from tight relationships to relational crises?
How to explain this appalling transformation of trust and love given at the beginning of a relationship into anger and disappointment as the final result?
Sincere relationships can be counted on the fingers of one hand: today we love, tomorrow we hate. Today we love to share Love you images, Good morning images, but tomorrow we block each other. It is difficult to understand what can give rise to such contradictory and destructive feelings!
If yesterday, we had our hand on the heart of the other, why did today, this complicity flee as if it had never existed? Why don’t we see the consequences of our actions when at some point, we start mistreating someone we were supposed to love?
Why are some character traits hard to change, and why are our unconscious flaws leading us by the nose? Why, then, when we meet great people that we appreciate so much, why do these same people become, over time, the worst relationships that we regret bitterly!
This is not always the case, it is true, but we can see that maintaining good relations remains a real challenge, even a difficult journey where we are not at the end of our surprises!
The human being is like any living being. He is destined to evolve, to transform, to change, to grow, to grow old, to die, and one wonders why despite everything, it is so difficult for him to tend towards the best of himself without crossing paths. Malicious people who cause your rout with their doubts and their shenanigans!
Unfortunately, whatever the romantic, friendly, family, or professional relationship … comes to the worst feelings that lead to estrangement!
Appreciating someone enough without ever envying them seems to be a challenge as the discomfort of each other weakens relationships through gossip and malevolence! The best relationships end up dying because of misunderstandings. As if to be in a relationship with someone, you had to lose your freedom, authenticity, and self-respect at all costs!
It’s not just love that must be unconditional; the rules that allow a relationship to remain healthy and serene are real and absolutely necessary to maintain a bond that is always peaceful and fulfilled!
We cannot, for example, love someone and expect from this person submission to our own choices, to our demands, and to our decisions!
Nope! The other must remain free without limit and without the need to justify his way of being and living! If we decide to bring him into our lives, we accept him entirely as he is, without possible negotiation by trying to distort his true identity!
It is in the crossing of our diverse and varied typologies that the marvelous and precious alliance of our differences is born, which comes to give birth to the multiple possible facets of the human being and all its possible variations through a multitude of ways of being. And to exist!
We are not made to standardize, standardize or format ourselves! The human being is, above all, plural, and it is in this diversity that we draw the very essence of who we are!
When we seek to control someone by our actions, we can only cause difficulties.
How can we hope for harmony and tranquility if we don’t prevent others from breathing on their own? If we inculcate values contrary to the verb “to love,”? If we don’t try to understand him in his character if we don’t get to know him in his uniqueness if we don’t want to listen to him if he never interests us? If we only give him a small place in our priorities, if we don’t like his independence, the fact that he refuses our principles and our beliefs! If we get angry, we become irritated; we close ourselves off; we entrench ourselves in an attitude of perpetual dissatisfaction.
As if we were looking only at others for what we like and what we miss. So we don’t forget to look at what is present before our eyes and that we don’t be too obsessed with our demands in life!
When do we stop seeing what is so rare in some relationships, the warmth of the heart that should mask everything else! To live in mind, we waste the essentials; we don’t let our hearts take up all the space!
And when everything flies away, we only have our eyes left to mourn our regrets when we become aware of the loss we have suffered, too lost in our predominance of character, in our inflexibility, and in our difficulty in adapting!
Love is a wonderful feeling where you give yourself to someone else, but betrayal is its gall, bitterness, and resentment when you let yourself be guided by something other than the heart!